Nowadays, personal development is progressively demanded everywhere, its main purpose consists of developing our potential. Faced with technological progress, it is necessary for everyone to show their humanity and emotions to make us stand out.
In order to do that, we have to be aware of our emotions and transform them into skills such as Emotional Intelligence.
- What is Emotional Intelligence ?
Emotional Intelligence can be defined as the ability to perceive, express, understand and manage emotions, reason with them and regulate them accurately and effectively in ourselves and in others. It can also be defined as a set of skills that influence an individual’s ability to succeed by adapting to the pressures and demands of their surroundings.
In order to be a fully adapted and functioning member of society, a person must be endowed with both traditional and emotional intelligence.
- IQ is the intelligence quotient which measures intelligence and determines the intellectual capacity to solve problems, for example, how well you learn, understand and apply information.
- EQ is the emotional quotient that establishes another form of intelligence which is not purely intellectual but interpersonal and intrapersonal such as using emotions to think and enhance our reasoning.
Some people say that emotional intelligence is more important for your career than your IQ, while others believe that IQ matters more. Nevertheless, emotional intelligence plays a major role in our lives.
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- Importance of Emotional Intelligence:
Having a high level of EQ grants you self awareness, motivation, empathy, the ability to face difficulties, manage stress and make rational and wise decisions. It can also allow you to understand others, recognize them, communicate clearly with them and create positive social interaction. These qualities are common in great leaders who are brilliant communicators, effective managers, quick problem solvers and they are especially emotionally mature.
In fact, you can have the best training in the world, an analytical mind and unlimited creativity, but that will never be enough to make you a successful leader because you’ll lack emotional intelligence which is the first step in realizing your true potential.
- Developing your Emotional Intelligence:
In an attempt to develop your EI you need to focus on these 4 axes :
- Self-awareness : It’s the ability to understand your emotions, to recognize their influence and to evaluate yourself. Building up your self-awareness begins with knowing what triggers your negative emotions and turning it into a positive affirmation, then, reflecting on the way you respond to things and giving yourself some time before you do so, and later, uncovering what makes you happy. Besides being beneficial for your emotional intelligence, this is extremely important if you want to communicate and lead more effectively in the home and work environment.
- Self control : It can be represented in regulating your emotional tensions which are usually clouding your judgment in order to free yourself from any unnecessary pressure. This can be done by following effective strategies like meditating, trying to focus on one goal at a time, prioritizing your important tasks, planning ahead every situation and also improving your willpower by avoiding temptation and resisting unwanted behaviors or urges in order to reach your aim.
- Social Awareness : It’s sensing and acknowledging the emotions of others by detecting and accepting them. After identifying and controlling your own emotions, comes improving your social awareness. You should listen carefully to what people say and mention around you, pay attention to their tones, keep an eye on their body language, place yourself in their shoes and consider their diverse backgrounds not only to develop your social and interaction skills, but to also contribute to the well-being of your family, friends and community.
- Relationship management : It gives the meaning of inspiring and influencing others while highlighting their development and it also includes conflicts management. When you ensure your ability to listen to others, give them your full attention, minimize distractions, set clear expectations, lead fairly plus your capacity of detecting and handling conflicts efficiently, you’re on the right path of managing your relationships properly and getting the best out of yourself and others.
You can watch : 6 Ways to Improve Your Emotional Intelligence | TEDx Talks
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head. It is the unique intersection of both.” – David Caruso
Emotional Intelligence is a dynamic aspect of your personality that includes behavioral traits which you can always work on improving in order to come up with significant benefits that will range from your personal happiness and well-being to occupational and professional success.